Life. Play it safe – or risk everything? Avoid conflict or seize the day?
At the end of a long-anticipated visit from across the country, this writer’s family – west coast grandmother, east coast son and daughter-in-law, granddaughters 11 and 13 – was invited to go sailing on San Francisco Bay with a close friend who owns (and carefully operates) a 36-foot sailboat. After showing us around – it sleeps seven, with almost all the comforts of home – our captain delivered a safety lecture, explaining things like where the life jackets are, and the way the boom can swing quite suddenly and one is advised to stay out of its way. He went into some detail about what to do if he fell overboard: a safety device attached to the stern contains rope and flotation collar, so all that’s required is to keep circling until the man overboard can grab the line. He then issued life jackets to the girls and offered them (this boat has life jackets for about a dozen) to the grownups. I declined, knowing full well that I would last about five minutes max in the chilly waters of the Bay; go figure.
For the next several hours we had a glorious sail, under the Bay Bridge, around the back of Alcatraz, nearing Angel Island, swinging parallel to the Golden Gate and heading back to meander homeward along the city’s edge. Picnicking in the sunshine and taking advantage of spectacular photo ops. I had one scary moment on the turnaround; it’s been a long time since I last sailed. Almost home we were stopped by the bay patrol and told not to sail back below the bridge for 10 minutes or so. Once we were cleared they explained to boats waiting on either side that Vice President Biden had been driving across the bridge. All in all it was a glorious day. In looking back, though, it’s hard to miss the basic messages:
1) Let the kids explore the universe, but keep the life jackets on.
2) White caps and turbulence make things interesting, and are seldom fatal.
3) The vessel with more power is supposed to get out of the way.
4) You can circle around someone who’s sinking, but he has to grab the lifeline himself.
5) On the other hand, when the sinker is you, be grateful for those circling around.
6) When you think the world’s going to keel over, there is ballast that brings it back to steady.
7) Sometimes the vessel with more power claims the right-of-way. Chill.
8) Wear sunscreen, and bring extra layers.
9) Don’t miss the scenery while you’re looking at your camera phone.
10) Life’s a breeze.